I’ve been dating a 43 year-old guy for ten months, but I feel like our relationship is stuck in limbo. The entire reason why I’m dating a guy thirteen years older is because I thought he’d be more mature and more inclined to settle down. He’s never been married before nor does he have any children. So when we first started seeing each other, I laid my cards out on the table to be clear about what I was looking for. He said he wanted the same, but now I’m not so sure he meant it. Thoughts?
Waitie Katie
Katie,
Congratulations you’ve spotted the once elusive Career Bachelor. After much protection from women that didn’t mind putting up with crap, the CB is no longer on the endangered species list.
Warning to all women: Career Bachelors don’t have to be in their 40’s and 50’s, there are plenty of junior Career Bachelors in their 20’s and 30’s that are roaming local watering holes.
There are two types of Career Bachelors. The first one is the Noncommittal Career Bachelor (aka George Clooney). He doesn’t hide the fact that he’s NOT interested in getting married or having children. However, any girl that thinks she can tame this beast is in for a world of hurt. The second one is the Romantic Career Bachelor (aka Lenny Kravitz). He might have been married once before, but more than likely not. Though he has a history of failed relationships (none of which he takes the blame for), he claims that he’s looking for love. After decades of close encounters, the RCB still can’t make it down the aisle.
To find out if you’re dating the RCB, pay close attention to his relationship history. A couple of bad relationships in his past are understandable, but if all his exes hate him, there’s probably a good reason for it. The RCB usually starts off hot and heavy, talking about marriage, and dropping “I Love You’s” after a few weeks of dating. In the beginning he’s very attentive, but around the six-month mark, he does a flip. Suddenly, he feels the two of you are spending too much time together, and he needs to make more time for his friends. “Maybe I’m not the marrying type” or “Maybe I’m too old for children” start creeping in and replacing the “I Love You’s.” The newness has worn off, and he needs another woman to prey on. Then this drawn-out process repeats itself.
The Top 5 Dallas Locations For Career Bachelors:
5. Ocean Prime
4. The Ritz
3. Nick & Sam’s
2. Javier’s Cigar Bar
1. Al Biernet’s
Note: these bars are within a five-mile radius. Career Bachelors frequent the same places and often travel in packs. Listen to the word on the street. The nickname Douchebag isn’t a term of endearment, unless you’re his mother.
Luck & Love,
Toni