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Ask Toni: The Modern Case of BBD‏


I recently met this guy and since then we’ve been out on a few dates.  When we’re alone he’s wonderful and attentive, but whenever we’re out in public I can’t keep his attention.  He constantly scans the room while I’m speaking, and he’s not even aware of what I’m saying.  I don’t understand what I’m doing wrong to make him behave this way.  I’ve tried switching seats so that I’m the one facing the door, but it didn’t help much.  We haven’t been dating long so I don’t know if this is something that will eventually stop, but right now its driving me nuts and making me feel so insecure.  I really like him, but I just can’t keep vying for his attention.  How can I fix this?

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Ask Toni: The Modern Custody Battle


I dated a girl for 10 months and eventually lost interest because I felt we were better off as friends.  We shared a lot of the same interests and hobbies, and at one point, she even invited me to join her cycling group. 

After our split, she asked that I be dropped.  Everyone agreed and now I don’t have anyone to ride with.  Can’t we all just get along?

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The Modern Golden Rule

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My fiancé and I are getting married in less than a month.  Normally, we mess around a little before we go to bed, but lately he started bringing sex toys (nipple clamps) into the mix.  I’m a virgin and he’s not, so this kind of thing bothers me a bit.  I’m not a prude, but at the same time I’m just not ready to do certain things when we haven’t even had sex yet.  Maybe once we do, I’ll feel comfortable enough to experiment, but right now I’m not.  I’m starting to think there’s another sexual side to him that I don’t know about.  How do I handle this before I say, “I do?

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The Modern Douchebag Quiz


I have a habit of picking the wrong guys and by the time I realize it, a year has gone by.  I don’t trust myself anymore nor do I want to bother my friends with interviewing every new guy I meet.  Do you know a way I can shorten the interview process and stop wasting years on guys that don’t deserve my time?

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Ask Toni: The Modern Investment (How To Get Her Back)


 My girlfriend and I recently broke up after four and a half years together.  She was in school and I was working on my career when we first met.  In the beginning, she told me that she wanted to get married before she graduated.  We were young and I was reluctant.  Ever since then, we haven’t been on the same page.  At times, I put in more effort, and other times she would. Eventually, I think she had enough.  She was my best friend, lover, and support system.  She was the love of my life.  She’s done trying, but I’m not ready to let her go.  How can I get her back?

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The Modern Career Bachelor


I’ve been dating a 43 year-old guy for ten months, but I feel like our relationship is stuck in limbo.  The entire reason why I’m dating a guy thirteen years older is because I thought he’d be more mature and more inclined to settle down.  He’s never been married before nor does he have any children.  So when we first started seeing each other, I laid my cards out on the table to be clear about what I was looking for.  He said he wanted the same, but now I’m not so sure he meant it. Thoughts?

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